Normally I would keep to a blog of decent length. Bear with me on this one, it’s not real long just a little more than normal.
Over the last several weeks I’ve had the wonderful opportunity of spending a lot of time with our son, he’s twenty six and has been in missions for about seven years. Needless to say he spent a lot of time in other countries, which meant being absent for many holidays and family gatherings. He’s become well versed in the bible, being able to effectively teach Christ and the “church” from a first hand, practical way.
We were playing golf (he plays, I walk the tall fescue searching for lost balls). It was evening, we were the last ones on the course and in no hurry, just talking and playing at a slow casual pace. During our conversation he said something which I found very interesting yet all to true.
He said, “It’s amazing how often people don’t mean what they say”.
“How’s that?”
Peoples’ word, what they profess, so often it isn’t any good, they don’t do what they say; especially among the church.
I have to say, it’s a good thing he’s learned it at an early age but at the same time I was discouraged that he had to find it to be true at all.
“People I work with who aren’t Christians are more likely to be good to their word than people in the church. Sure they might cuss and talk crude but at least they mean what they say. They tend to be more trustworthy and are actually better friends when it comes right down to it. They’re easier to hang out with. They share more, help more, and are willing to give of themselves for you”.
Interesting.
I had to tell him he had made an all to accurate observation, and I too have a really hard time understanding why.
Over the years I’ve found it’s a good idea to have some friends who are outside the church, and I still do. Why? They really are good friends, for the same reasons our son has found. Now I’m not advocating running away from Christ to become “like them”, but it’s refreshing to maintain that love for others that tends to be more recognized in those who dwell outside the church “structure”. It also gives us an opportunity to share Christ, and this was the next question our son asked.
“What is the best way to share the gospel with them? There’s this guy I just know I want to share with”.
“You’ll know, just do it”, I said.
“Yeah. I guess so. I just need to do it. Thanks”
It turns out he did have the opportunity to share the gospel with this young guy and it has developed into more conversations and a broader witness among his coworkers
But while I was giving him the advice and encouragement I had this pit in my stomach which has been there for years. One fear I have (and it’s very well substantiated) is that once these people are saved and move into the church they tend to loose that “friend” quality. They become saved, spiritual and often times shallow. And that’s the weird part. What is it about people coming into the church that often causes them to become shallow at the same time? Before being saved, (which I understand is to be an enemy of God and destined to destruction) they were open, honest, fun, daring, transparent, loyal and credible. But somehow the “church” (and when I say the church I mean the “environment” we sustain that seems to be anything but normal) causes all this to disappear. “Behold the old man is dead and a new man is born who is stiff, boring, undependable, self centered, and afraid of the environment they just came from.”
I have found a few GOOD friends in the body of Christ, unfortunately most of them live out of state, not all, but most. We keep in touch by phone or email and truly savor our conversations. I think of them often and treat myself by staying in touch. None of them are pastors, only one holds any kind of leadership position. Actually they might even be considered “peripheral rebels” by most church leadership.
I guess this is why I like hanging out at Starbucks, or the occasional brew pub. You get to meet PEOPLE, some are rough, coarse, blunt, crude and a little “different”, but at least they’re more likely to lay down an honest offering of who they are.
I’ve often said the church needs to learn how to shoot pool, not to be more like the world, but to maintain a more honest view of how to be Christlike.
(here’s the meat)
I used to work in a production facility for eleven years. We built mobile homes, manufactured housing, “wheel estate”.
At one point we had two plants and over 700 employees. One thing that’s true about a place like that is, a lot of people you meet are either coming from jail or getting ready to enter. They’ve lived lives of drugs, crime, fornication, adultery, murder, lying cheating and stealing. To tell you the truth I was amazed a lot of these people could even get up in the morning let alone make it to work. But if you were to ask my wife I loved my job, and couldn’t wait to get to work each day. As rough and unsaved as it was we were a family. We had a cause, a goal, and we got things done. We pulled together, counted on each other, and in that we trusted, encouraged and put our faith in the others ability to follow through.
And that, I believe is the difference. We were engaged in something which caused us to be dependent on one another, serve one another. Why? because there was a planned goal, a desired end result. Accomplishment.
The many parts working together as one with a pre determined vision in sight. Because of that we were a body.
We were Plant #48. That’s what the sign said at the street. Plant #48. Or, rather The Body #48.
(it’s interesting that a production facility that produces things is called a plant)
I guess you could say Christ was represented by the companies corporate name on the sign at the street as an indication of who’s we were, and our plant number represented the local fellowship we belonged to.
We had respect, problems, arguments, admiration, opinions, input, frustrations, training, instruction, deadlines, victories, close calls, birthdays, pizza feeds, picnics, pranks, births, deaths, gains and losses, but we had them together. And another thing, people didn’t learn how to build a mobile home sitting in a chair week after week, they were into the plant on the first day to work along side some one who was experienced and learned from them through instruction and discipleship
So many people from so many different backgrounds, sharing all of these experiences together only happens for one reason. We were laboring together.
Jesus said, “No greater love has any man than to lay down his life for a friend.” I saw this command demonstrated more among those who weren’t in the church than those in it. Why? Because we laid down our lives for one another in the midst of and for the sake of a well defined set purpose.
“We build mobile homes, that’s why we’re here”.
It was never about the individual having a job, medical insurance, vacation and all that, although I would be a fool to think they weren’t doing it for the bucks. But regardless, in the midst of that truth, there was the reason plant #48 existed.
Building.
We as people work at our jobs with others to accomplish goals and it is here we do all of the things i mentioned above. Team is a great experience.
I believe the reason our son sees things in the church the way he does is because there’s a basic lack of goal. Common labor, and effort.
We sit and receive training on “how” to build mobile homes but seldom engage in the “work” or “labor” of it. It’s in the laboring together that we find and develop the attributes we tend to see in the world we associate with day to day. We labor with them, accomplish with them and celebrate achievement with them; through commitment, devotion, credibility and faithfulness.
God has called us, in Christ, to be co-laborers for a reason.
Not laboring, (or not having something to labor for) may easily explain why we inhale books like, “The Purpose Driven Life”.
Chapter by chapter, we labor together through such books that are filled with the “essence” of healthy labor, in a desperate attempt to somehow fill the void within us. A void established by God which can only be satisfied through actual effort. We want to read about the great benefits of corporate labor and then discuss how great it is but don’t want to actually get involved in the sweat of it all.
How about “Life Driven Purpose” for a change?